If you have been following the strategy of becoming the "soft nice" guy to win over your girl then beware! This move could firmly slot you into the "friend" zone from where extracting yourself could be quite difficult and you might just end up as the best man at your own girlfriend's wedding.
Why the nice guy strategy usually fails? Most men think that by becoming nice, soft, dependable and sensitive they can arouse warm and fuzzy feelings in a girl.
Yes, they can, but only as a friend! Girls usually perceive men as being macho, aggressive, tough, and protectors since this is how their minds have been programmed since the beginning of time.
These features arouse their sexuality and desires whereas those soft features only arouse feelings of friendship.
Most girls suffer from "Bad Boy Syndrome".
Girls also feel a giddy rush in the company of bad guys since it somehow gives them the thrill that they themselves would be too timid to attempt or could even be restricted from doing so alone.
On the other hand, a"nice" guy is simply perceived as being too tame and worthy only of friendship.
A girl might find you totally trustworthy if you are "nice" but if you truly want to shake and stir her hormones then "bad" or "bold" is the way to go.
You have not expressed your feelings clear enough.
In your bid to become nice, soft and dependable, you might not have had the opportunity to express your true feelings for her.
You can now pursue different routes to extract yourself from the friend zone.
Start flirting with her so as to surprise her, ignore her date if indeed she has started dating someone or start dating someone to activate her competitive spirit.
These methods will at least prevent you from standing at her wedding with a wedding ring in your hand meant for her finger.