Winning Your Ex Back
Winning your ex back can be simple or complicated.
After all, you're dealing with both his or her heart and mind.
The reason it can be simple or complicated is because of the extent of the circumstances involved in the breakup.
Before you even begin thinking how to approach this important undertaking the first thing you need to investigate is you own heart and mind.
Coming to grips with your heart is the real focus of this article.
How do you really feel about your ex mate? That's where this really begins.
I mean, how do you "really" feel about him or her? Take some time over a period of a day or two or a week more (if possible) to really come to grips with your heart.
There are so many variables to consider.
Think about yourself and also think about your ex.
If children are involved, very seriously consider them as well.
Let's get started.
Look first at your motive of getting back together.
Is it your heart that's hurting or your mind, or you pride? Are you mostly concerned about what other people will think when he or she is no longer around? That should definitely not be the primary reason for trying to reconcile your relationship.
Instead of what other people might, or might not think, focus on your own heart.
I'm not talking about the organ that pumps blood throughout your body, I'm talking about your true self; that part of you that is who you really are.
For some people, getting in touch with that part of themselves takes some extended focused quiet time.
Every minute you take getting in touch with your real self will pay great dividends.
Unfortunately, for many people who are caught up in the daily rat-race, it takes some real effort to slow down and get some true quiet time.
If you believe in God, it would be good to spend some time with Him.
The time you spend searching your heart will likely be the most important part you do in preparing to get win your ex back.
You need to assess your heart, your inner-self, and search for answers to questions like those, which follow.
Ask yourself, Am I truly in love with my ex? How do we get along in difficult times? What needs do they fulfill for me? If I want them back, what are my real reasons? Do they really add true long lasting value to my life? Do they provide balance in my life? This is just a starter list of questions to ask yourself.
I'd suggest you begin your own list.
Take the time to write out the questions and answers.
Keep adding to the list over several days.
Above all, be genuinely honest with yourself.
Now, you've probably noticed I haven't given you any advice about getting in touch with your ex.
The reason is that until you complete this first critical step, you're not ready to be back in touch yet.
Based on what you find out about by searching your heart, there will be a time to get in touch.
Please, don't get ahead of yourself.
Remember you are taking the time to do the above steps not only for yourself, but also for your ex.
After all, you're dealing with both his or her heart and mind.
The reason it can be simple or complicated is because of the extent of the circumstances involved in the breakup.
Before you even begin thinking how to approach this important undertaking the first thing you need to investigate is you own heart and mind.
Coming to grips with your heart is the real focus of this article.
How do you really feel about your ex mate? That's where this really begins.
I mean, how do you "really" feel about him or her? Take some time over a period of a day or two or a week more (if possible) to really come to grips with your heart.
There are so many variables to consider.
Think about yourself and also think about your ex.
If children are involved, very seriously consider them as well.
Let's get started.
Look first at your motive of getting back together.
Is it your heart that's hurting or your mind, or you pride? Are you mostly concerned about what other people will think when he or she is no longer around? That should definitely not be the primary reason for trying to reconcile your relationship.
Instead of what other people might, or might not think, focus on your own heart.
I'm not talking about the organ that pumps blood throughout your body, I'm talking about your true self; that part of you that is who you really are.
For some people, getting in touch with that part of themselves takes some extended focused quiet time.
Every minute you take getting in touch with your real self will pay great dividends.
Unfortunately, for many people who are caught up in the daily rat-race, it takes some real effort to slow down and get some true quiet time.
If you believe in God, it would be good to spend some time with Him.
The time you spend searching your heart will likely be the most important part you do in preparing to get win your ex back.
You need to assess your heart, your inner-self, and search for answers to questions like those, which follow.
Ask yourself, Am I truly in love with my ex? How do we get along in difficult times? What needs do they fulfill for me? If I want them back, what are my real reasons? Do they really add true long lasting value to my life? Do they provide balance in my life? This is just a starter list of questions to ask yourself.
I'd suggest you begin your own list.
Take the time to write out the questions and answers.
Keep adding to the list over several days.
Above all, be genuinely honest with yourself.
Now, you've probably noticed I haven't given you any advice about getting in touch with your ex.
The reason is that until you complete this first critical step, you're not ready to be back in touch yet.
Based on what you find out about by searching your heart, there will be a time to get in touch.
Please, don't get ahead of yourself.
Remember you are taking the time to do the above steps not only for yourself, but also for your ex.
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