Helpful Breakup Advice
Being Strong The first piece of advice I can give you is be strong.
A common occurrence that happens after a breakup, is those we get dumped tend to emotionally break down.
The get super negative, become hopeless about the future, and generally go on a downward spiral of depression.
They stop eating, sleeping, showering and they literally live a hell on Earth.
If this pertains to you, you may want to think about seeing a therapist.
Accepting Time You need to understand that the pain you are currently experiencing is temporary.
Just like all the other bad times in your life, you eventually recovered and if anything, became a much stronger person in the end.
True growth usually happens when we have to face the negatives that life throws at us.
So look at this experience as an amazing opportunity to learn more about yourself, what you want out life, and generally grow into a much better version of yourself.
What you are going through is very much like a physical wound.
It hurts right now, but amidst all the pain you are going through, you are no doubt healing.
It may feel like the pain will never go away, but you have to keep reminding yourself that you are healing and moving towards a better future.
Making Decisions Another thing you need to do during the post-breakup time is to ask yourself if getting back together with your ex is the best decision you can make.
Often times I get people who ask me how to get back with their ex, and after we discuss the relationship, they come to realize that the breakup was one of the best things that could have happened to them.
So you need to be sure that your ex is the right person for you.
Did the positives of the relationship greatly outweigh the negatives? All relationship have their rocky times and no partner is perfect, but you have to also want the best for yourself.
Write down all the positives of the person and all the negatives as well, and then outweigh the lists to see if this person is worth taking a second show around with.