If you have just broken up with your ex, I feel your pain.
Anyone who has been through a tough break up knows that overwhelming sadness, anger and frustration are the dominant emotions one feels when they are at this stage of their life.
However, regardless of how miserable you feel right now and of the circumstances that led to your break up, there are certain strategies that are available that will help you to get back together with your ex quickly.
That's what this article is about.
It will spell out 2 of the most powerful steps in the initial stage of the separation that you need to take that will breathe life into your relationship again.
* Firstly, you must understand that the consequence of a big emotional event such as breaking up and all the negative emotions that go with it is complete mental and emotional exhaustion.
This means that you tend to base your decisions mostly on how you feel without thinking things through first.
For example, in an effort to get their ex back, most people make the classic mistake of constantly calling him or her, sending gifts, texting, e-mailing, etc.
This is the last thing you should do because it makes you look desperate and clingy.
So give yourself a little bit of time to recover from the emotional scars of the break up so that you can make the best decision about what you will do next without your emotions getting in the way.
* The next step is to re-establish contact with your ex.
You need to start off slowly and do not show how you feel.
Always be calm and relaxed when you are together.
Realize that the only way your ex will be open to discussing the possibility of getting back together with you is if you casually start spending time together without discussing the state of your relationship.
Go out for coffee and keep the mood light and fun.
There will be plenty of time for serious relationship conversations later on.
Your priority should be for you two to become friends again without any of the emotional baggage that's left over from your relationship.