Unhappy in Marriage?What You Must Do Now to Save Your Marriage From Divorce
Being married nearly 13 years, hearing the tales of my married friends, and spending many years working with clients on relationship challenges, we have all been in the place of waving the white flag of surrender.
But, Wait! Giving up without first using the techniques described here could be a pain-filled mistake.
Divorce does not have to happen.
Follow these three life-changing steps.
1.
Be True to yourself 2.
Be Present with your mate 3.
Take the leap and Appreciate It takes awareness to discover the "who" of you.
You are not what you do, or your roles in life.
These are aspects of you.
Begin the discovery process by checking in with how you feel when you engage in each segment of your day.
Point yourself in the direction of what feels good.
Now is the time to feel complete in and of yourself.
Bringing your complete self into your marriage will greatly improve your expectations and experiences.
You will no longer need your spouse to fill your emptiness.
You have so much more to give when full! Now that you are bringing your full self into your marriage, it is time to turn toward your mate.
Turn off the judgment, criticism and resentment.
See the good in your mate.
The good is there in each of us and much easier to see in the absence of negative emotions.
Be with your spouse.
Quiet your mind of anticipating what he or she will say.
Refrain from formulating responses in advance.
Breathe.
Feel your physical body where you are and settle in to being present.
You will discover something wonderful about your mate.
The third magic pill to reunite your marriage is appreciation.
I cannot over emphasize the importance of noticing and expressing appreciation for your spouse.
I realize it is difficult to go from turning away from your mate to turning towards him or her.
But, once you become whole and present, appreciation is a natural accompaniment on the path of healing.
Notice small acts of kindness as well as large contributions to the family.
Focus on appreciating your mate and you will notice that you too will receive appreciation in return.
In conclusion, embarking on these life changing steps will dramatically improve your life.
Engage your partner and invite him or her to take the same steps.
Magic happens.
Join the crowd who has had success in re-creating their marriage.
The notion of divorce will become a distant memory.
But, Wait! Giving up without first using the techniques described here could be a pain-filled mistake.
Divorce does not have to happen.
Follow these three life-changing steps.
1.
Be True to yourself 2.
Be Present with your mate 3.
Take the leap and Appreciate It takes awareness to discover the "who" of you.
You are not what you do, or your roles in life.
These are aspects of you.
Begin the discovery process by checking in with how you feel when you engage in each segment of your day.
Point yourself in the direction of what feels good.
Now is the time to feel complete in and of yourself.
Bringing your complete self into your marriage will greatly improve your expectations and experiences.
You will no longer need your spouse to fill your emptiness.
You have so much more to give when full! Now that you are bringing your full self into your marriage, it is time to turn toward your mate.
Turn off the judgment, criticism and resentment.
See the good in your mate.
The good is there in each of us and much easier to see in the absence of negative emotions.
Be with your spouse.
Quiet your mind of anticipating what he or she will say.
Refrain from formulating responses in advance.
Breathe.
Feel your physical body where you are and settle in to being present.
You will discover something wonderful about your mate.
The third magic pill to reunite your marriage is appreciation.
I cannot over emphasize the importance of noticing and expressing appreciation for your spouse.
I realize it is difficult to go from turning away from your mate to turning towards him or her.
But, once you become whole and present, appreciation is a natural accompaniment on the path of healing.
Notice small acts of kindness as well as large contributions to the family.
Focus on appreciating your mate and you will notice that you too will receive appreciation in return.
In conclusion, embarking on these life changing steps will dramatically improve your life.
Engage your partner and invite him or her to take the same steps.
Magic happens.
Join the crowd who has had success in re-creating their marriage.
The notion of divorce will become a distant memory.
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