Youre already in a relationship. You know that shes the one that you want to be with. Maybe youve been together for years, maybe only a few months. No matter how long its been you know that you want to keep the relationship going. Things have been hard. Maybe there have been some setbacks and some fights. Now things are threatening to fall apart. So how to you save your relationship with the woman you love?

The first step is to listen to her. This doesnt mean fight. It definitely doesnt mean yell at her. What it means is when she wants to tell you about her day or she wants to vent about this new client at work, you listen to her. Dont just sit there and nod along with what she says. She can tell when youre doing this and its only going to drive you further apart. She wants to talk to you because youre important to her. If you dont listen when she tells you about things that are important to her then shes going to feel like shes not important to you.

Next, you want to help her. If you find that a lot of your fights are about how she feels like shes doing all the work around the house then help her around the house. If you argue about who takes care of the kids then help her with that. Shes not asking you to do everything. Helping out even once in a while will make a big difference. So maybe every other week you do the dishes. Or you take the kids to swim practice every Wednesday. Thinking that she should do these things just because shes a woman isnt right. She doesnt want to do all the work and when you help her, she feels appreciated.

Lastly be the man you were when you met. If youre in a serious relationship already then that means she fell in love with you once. Something about you then has changed. So go back to that time. What did you do differently when you were dating? Maybe you were more attentive. Maybe you used to open doors for her and pull out her chair or hold her hand when you walked down the street. These things show a woman that shes appreciated and cared for. They mean seem little and unimportant to you but they add up to mean a lot. Did you used to take her out and now you just stay home all the time? Look at what your relationship is like now and how it started out. Sure if youve started a family now it means that you need to grow up a little. You cant be exactly the same guy you were way back then, but there was something about that guy she fell in love with. So find out what it is.

If youre struggling trying to make your relationship work there are a few things you should know. You should know that she just wants a little bit of help and that she wasnt to know shes appreciated and respected. Make sure she does know those things. And most important of all, listen when she talks to you.