It is one thing consistently asking yourself 'how can I get my ex wife back'? And it is another actually going with your heart and doing it. We know how you feel though, when you are feeling down and hurt, you have neither the courage nor the correct frame of mind to try and make a good impression. You will have the fear of messing things up more and saying the wrong thing thus inflicting further damage.

It is important from the outset to learn how to make a good impression. If you really love your ex and want them back in your life you will need to put in some overtime and learn important methods and approaches. So let's take a look at some of these important areas.

First of all it is time to gather your thoughts. It is ideal at this time, before pursuing reconciliation with your ex, to put your past relationship with her to bed (so to speak). It is old news now and you need to accept the fact it is over. Stop sitting and crying over what has been, and try to start again with a fresh attitude and a different approach. Take time to establish where things went wrong previously, and make sure you are not going to repeat these mistakes again. The next relationship with your ex will be far stronger, as you will be educated in what you should and should not do.

Before making any attempts to get your ex back, allow the time for hurt and anguish to settle. In times of distress and upset, the last thing people want is to be pressured. Having an ex lurking on every corner is not something we want to experience during these hard times, so put this sort of behaviour out of your mind, it will not be welcomed. This is the time for planning and not pursuing. Having a well worked strategy is far more beneficial than going in randomly and out of desperation.

A lot of people say (including us), limit all contact with your ex and the less words spoken at this time the better. This is true, but there is a fine line between reflexion and being blatantly rude. It is down to you to find this fine line and do not cross it too often. Ignoring your ex completely can have adverse affects on your plan to win her back, and on the other hand, being in her space twenty four seven will not cut the mustard either. There is no harm once in a while to send a quick message to wish them well and let them know they are in your thoughts. Just do not overdo it.

For your ex to be fully aware you still love and care about her is a good position to be in. Never get angry with her and display your frustration when things are not moving the way you want them too. It is vital you show your ex your ability to understand how she feels and respect what she is going through. With this attitude, the relationship over time will become stronger and eventually lead to romance.

Getting your ex back is all about careful planning. Doing things at the right time in the right way can make the difference between success and failure.

Learn as much as you can and try to put in place a few ideas and thoughts. Do not get lazy and assume they will simply come back to you. There is the right way to win back your love and there is the wrong way. Remember that small mistakes and lack of thought can lead to further and irreparable damage.

When you are sure you are ready to do things correctly, follow a step by step guide and learn how to win love back correctly and with confidence.