The pain and heartbreak of a failed relationship is one of the most awful things in the world to experience especially one that may have been long term and so full of promise and love for so long that it seems impossible that it should all end up so badly.
The thing is, many of these relationships do not need to end up so badly as the promise that was there can still exist even if your guy may not acknowledge it.
Instead of just letting this slip through your fingers you need some help for how to get your ex lover back.
So here are 5 ways to get your ex boyfriend back! 1.
Be strong Easier said than done in these situations I know but being too needy and desperate can drives men away despite their love they still hold for you.
There is no need to act as if you do not want or love them while doing this however, some people will put up a strong facade and act like they are "over" the relationship to get him jealous but this is a bad idea and usually ends in disaster.
Being too needy and desperate may also make them feel guilty and is a bad way to try to bring them back.
Being confident and strong will allow him to be attracted back to you without any emotional blackmail which is the only way to restart a good relationship.
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Lower contact Again this seems to go against the grain but it links in with the first tip.
If you constantly keep chasing him then to him nothing will have seemed to have changed, you appear weak and needy and you also do not give each of you the time to be alone and yourself for a time.
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Rediscover yourself One problem with relationships is that over time you begin to change from the people you once were.
This is essential to a relationship however as both parties change and evolve so that you can live harmoniously with each other.
However it can sometimes go too far or we can lose sight of who we really are even if we feel we are doing the right thing.
Use this time of minimal contact to find yourself again, your goals and dreams and pleasures, you can reassess who you are without the intrusion of a boyfriend.
It is essential you find out what attraction there was initially between him and you to allow you to find this bliss again.
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Find your own faults Some people blame their boyfriend for the break up yet still want back in and others blame themselves exclusively.
Usually it no one persons fault but to really solve the problems that led to such a terrible event you must be introspective and look at your own faults in a cold hard light and admit to yourself these problems and work to fix them or at least understand them.
Only when you do this can you talk to your ex again with a better understanding of yourself and your old relationship.
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Reassess your ex You want him back right? However do you want him back for the right reasons and is he what you actually think he is? Once you have gone through the other steps in the guide you will be armed with a much better and more objective view on your ex and yourself.
Now you can see with a clear head if this is worth perusing and if so just how to do it! I sincerely hope you can use these ways to get your ex boyfriend back and find the bliss you are looking for.
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