While there's a lot of misinformation out there, there's no doubt male chastity benefits are real, almost as predictable as the four seasons, and manifest themselves very, very quickly once you embrace the lifestyle.
However, when you're thinking about exactly what the benefits are and how and why they're going to come to you, spare a few moments to think about what you can do to make sure you not only get the best from your man, but how he can get the best from you, too.
I know that sounds a little contentious, because the common myth is you shouldn't care about his pleasure and it's all about you.
And while it's true there are relationships and marriages predicated on that assumption, you'll find they're few and far between, and simply wouldn't suit most of us no matter which side of the chastity device we were on.
The truth is, to realise all the fabulous male chastity benefits you've heard about...
You've Got To Give Him Something In Return! This is not the same as "topping from the bottom" as it's called - because it's something you can and probably should do before you embrace the lifestyle in earnest.
In effect, you draw up an agreement about what is and is not acceptable to each of you.
And at this point you're both free to negotiate and there's no right or wrong way to do this other than what's right or wrong for you as a couple.
However, some words of caution: it's important you're both clear on what you mean.
It's all too easy to have ambiguous "understandings" that can cause problems for you both further down the line and the male chastity benefits you were hoping for never materialise or are overshadowed by anger and resentment.
For example, a common problem is the man says, "I want you to control my orgasms" when he really means, "I want you to control my orgasms...
except when I really, really, really want to come!".
Let me repeat: there's nothing intrinsically wrong with this if it's what you agree and what suits you both.
But more often than not there's no such discussion or negotiation and his lady takes him at his word and when he says, "please...
!" she says, "NO!".
And she continues to say it and eventually he gets grouchy, she gets flustered wondering what she's done wrong...
and the whole thing gets all the more difficult.
You might even want to go as far as having a formal chastity contract - many couples do, including my husband John and me, although others find them either too proscriptive or prescriptive.
Do what suits you best - it's your lifestyle, remember.
So Why Is This All So Important? Well, it's back to those male chastity benefits again: your man is going to become more loving, affectionate and attentive, his lust and passion for you will return to levels to those you enjoyed when you were first together (and may even exceed them if you're especially strict with him), and it can be like you're a pair of permanent newlyweds.
But, and here's the important bit, he's doing this because of the increased intimacy you're sharing and the love and attention you are also showing him by giving him what he wants.
And if you've not negotiated the details or discussed that...
there's every chance you're going to get it wrong in his mind.
The fact you're giving him what he asked for rather than what he really wants is neither here nor there: he's still going to be grouchy and you're not going to get the male chastity benefits you were expecting.
This isn't just idle theory.
In my relationship with John, we talked at length about exactly what he wanted and expected before we even took our first step along this incredible journey.
As it was, it's very simple: John has given me full control, and we established what he meant by that at the outset.
For us, it means he orgasms 3 or 4 times a year at my sole discretion; but we're awaiting delivery of a new belt and, once he's adjusted and accustomed to that, there's a good chance I will decide to deny him for a full year.
In short, he has freely consented to my denying him for as long as it suits me.
This might seem cruel and heartless and I'm risking losing those male chastity benefits I mentioned, but the truth is because we both know exactly what the lifestyle means it works fabulously.
To Translate This To Your Own Life The minutiae of what you decide aren't important, in that you don't need to look at others and try and copy their way of doing things.
What's important is that the communication, expectations and obligations of each of you to the other are understood and accepted by both of you.