Anyone who is involved with a drug or alcohol abuser or are intimately involved with someone abusing, can be manipulated.
How can you help another end substance abuse and at the same time protect yourself? These 7 Golden rules that end addiction enabling should answer this and get you pointed in the right direction for more help.

Enabling means: acting in any way calculated that supports an alcohol or drug abuser in continuing their substance abusing lifestyle.

Some facts: drugs and alcohol and the lifestyle, cost time and money to maintain.
If you are paying for a drug or alcohol abuser's rent, food and clothing you're enabling their use or at least the lifestyle.
They are dependent on your support to continue to abuse.
You're actions enable their lifestyle, regardless of what else they say or are doing.
Also consider the emotional impact and drain an addicts lifestyle has on a family or yourself.
Emotional dependence saps the quality of life from people.
The costs are more than money.
7 Golden Rules of Saving An Addict / Alcoholic

1. Stop enabling their lifestyle
2. Only support their efforts at rehabilitation and detox
3. Get a support team with you or behind you to ensure you don't abandon your resolve
4. Discover and find a full course of treatment recovery that will fully rehabilitate the person.
   This will include, physical, mental and emotional rehab
5. Work out a plan to get the entire problem resolved.
   Avoid snap judgment decisions, especially ones that offer convenience
6. Create a full plan and get enough agreement from others so they don't sabotage the process with the 'best' of intentions
7. Consider the gravity or extent of the ramifications of the problem if not handled: will it result in death, financial disaster, family breakup, division of property? Ensure the solution is complete enough to resolve the potential damage that could result
Why should one put to test these 7 Golden Rules of recovery support? Because their non-application has resulted in 1,000s of tragedies.
We know their non-use results in harm.
The Wrong Things To Do

• Don't continue to do similar type of supporting actions that are simply 'buffering' the drug or alcohol abusers eventual shock.
  The full recognition of the consequences of their abuse will be upsetting
• Don't do nothing: support groups sometimes encourage a passive roll in intervening between a disaster course and rehab.
  Act to get them recovered without buffering them from the harsh reality of 'waking up'
• Don't switch their drugs to prescribed 'substitute' drugs.
  Substitute drugs act like the drugs of abuse and other drugs are often taken secretly or recreationally to get high

Intoxication means thoroughly toxic or inebriated

Someone who has been actively intoxicating themselves for years will have moments of clarity, but not long enough to appreciate the full range of destruction they bring to themselves, their loved ones and society.
Plan on a full recovery program, that way you won't have to feign disappointment.
Giving a substance abuser the best chance to recover is part of a logical plan in treatment.