Don"t Try and Change a Man
One of men's biggest fears is meeting a woman who will try to change them into someone they are not. The thought of it alone is scary. If a woman doesn't like the things she is dealing with in a relationship, she should try and fix it. If that doesn't work, don't waste time trying to change him because he's not going to change if he's not ready.
Relationships will come and go. There will be a lot of good ones and a lot of bad ones. Some, you will have a lot in common with, and others, you won't. But accept it for what it is. It is physically, mentally, and emotionally draining trying to change a man into someone he's not.
The funny thing about this is it's not the women's fault for trying to change men. It's usually the men's fault. Yes, the men's fault! And to top it off, men are quick to complain about women trying to change them. Men often give off false signals. They are sweet and very romantic people in the beginning. They are very tentative and try and provide for her every need. They send her flowers, call her in the morning to say hello, and call her in the evening to say goodnight. They are doing everything right. All of a sudden… they change. This can be very confusing for a woman. She got so use to being treated like a queen that she doesn't want it to stop. When this happens, she already knows the potential he has so she will reach out and do whatever she can to make it work.
There's nothing wrong with women wanting a man to change, but wanting him to change and trying to make him change are two different things. Some women will go to the extreme to change a man. There are actually guidebooks out there that walk women through how to change a man. There's a book called "A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man: Without His Even Knowing It" by Michele Weiner-Davis. The reviews I've read rated it fairly good, but to write a book on how to change your man is kind of disturbing. But what's even more disturbing are the women who purchase it.
A woman cannot always control who she is attracted to; sometimes the strangest things happen. But if a man feels that she is trying to change him, he's going to shut down and eventually shut her out. The more she feels shutout, the more persistent she becomes. And the more persistent she becomes, the farther and farther he will separate himself from her and the relationship.
A woman can say whatever she wants to a man, do whatever she can for a man, get all the advice on changing a man, and even give him an ultimatum, but a man is going to be who he is until he is ready and willing to change. Bottom line… don't try and change a man.
Relationships will come and go. There will be a lot of good ones and a lot of bad ones. Some, you will have a lot in common with, and others, you won't. But accept it for what it is. It is physically, mentally, and emotionally draining trying to change a man into someone he's not.
The funny thing about this is it's not the women's fault for trying to change men. It's usually the men's fault. Yes, the men's fault! And to top it off, men are quick to complain about women trying to change them. Men often give off false signals. They are sweet and very romantic people in the beginning. They are very tentative and try and provide for her every need. They send her flowers, call her in the morning to say hello, and call her in the evening to say goodnight. They are doing everything right. All of a sudden… they change. This can be very confusing for a woman. She got so use to being treated like a queen that she doesn't want it to stop. When this happens, she already knows the potential he has so she will reach out and do whatever she can to make it work.
There's nothing wrong with women wanting a man to change, but wanting him to change and trying to make him change are two different things. Some women will go to the extreme to change a man. There are actually guidebooks out there that walk women through how to change a man. There's a book called "A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man: Without His Even Knowing It" by Michele Weiner-Davis. The reviews I've read rated it fairly good, but to write a book on how to change your man is kind of disturbing. But what's even more disturbing are the women who purchase it.
A woman cannot always control who she is attracted to; sometimes the strangest things happen. But if a man feels that she is trying to change him, he's going to shut down and eventually shut her out. The more she feels shutout, the more persistent she becomes. And the more persistent she becomes, the farther and farther he will separate himself from her and the relationship.
A woman can say whatever she wants to a man, do whatever she can for a man, get all the advice on changing a man, and even give him an ultimatum, but a man is going to be who he is until he is ready and willing to change. Bottom line… don't try and change a man.
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