Have you ever gone out with the girls and found you had locked eyes with someone across the room and didn't know what to do and how to act and then you quickly looked away? Or have you gone out with a group of people that have either got up to go to the bar, visited the bathroom or are talking to people near you and have found yourself sitting on your own? You may as well have a "L" tattooed on your forehead that stood for Loser! When you go out have you observed other people talking and interacting and thought they were not overly attractive or handsome but they always seem to be talking to the prettiest girls or the most handsome guys in the room.
People watching is a favourite pastime as you get to observe people doing the things that you should be doing and that is flirting! Now let's roll up our sleeves and see what is involved, bearing in mind that flirting like any other skill is something that is learnt and with a little practice you will be flirting with the best of them.
But first be prepared to leave your comfort zone and start living.
Be careful of body language it is a dead giveaway, for instance you may be giving the wrong message to people if you sit with your arms crossed firmly across your chest.
This is like saying stay away I am protecting myself; therefore people will not approach you.
Women have a habit if flirting that they will play or flick their hair and smile or laugh and show a lot of teeth.
Also interesting is their stance, if they are interested in the person the woman's feet will be pointing to them.
Men tend to either touch their tie or keep on re-adjusting it perhaps in a similar fashion that women play with their hair.
Men also tend to constantly hitch their pants or hook their thumb through the belt tab when talking to women that they are interested in.
After the initial small talk is over you may find that they may touch you softly near the elbow in conversation this is a habit that both males and females do unthinkingly.
There is an unwritten law that says no higher than the elbow though as this is a more intimate touch that is permissible after you know someone for a longer length of time.
And this shows that you are both comfortable with one another.
When next out with your friends and you see go to the bar try a little flirting with the bar staff.
This is an easy thing to do and it will relax you and you do this by smiling and saying "hi how is your night so far? Suggestion is that you have a few clever things up your sleeve to engage the person.
Mind you if the bar is busy the person may not have the time to talk, but when there is a lull in the number of people at the bar that is when you would use your flirting technique.
When you do this you will be surprised to know people are watching you when you're out and if you seem carefree and happy you will automatically seem more approachable.
There is a word of caution though in your general conversation don't be suggestive or say things that could have a double meaning this would indeed give the person the wrong impression.
If you were a male they women would see you as sleazy, if women said something that was suggestive...
well it could give the male wrong signals.