Have you ever wondered what the guiding force is that influences the decisions and direction of your life? I know this is a huge philosophical question, which will not be answered in this article, but it was the burning question that inspired me when I began my journey over a decade ago.
Let's begin to explore this question by examining what I call the Matrix of Flow.
Being a visual kind of leaner and teacher, I like to use pictures, analogies and metaphors to help explain a new concept.
The diagram for the Matrix of Flow will lay the foundation for understanding the forces that influence how we SH\OW UP for ourselves and others.
In a previous article, I spoke about the pH Balance of Joy.
We explored the six qualities of joy and how that related to the Law of 80/20.
Now, let's look at how that plays out in real life.
To begin, let's define the realms, essences and composition of relationships Realms of Relationships o Inner ~ With the self o Intimate ~ Marriage or committed partner o Personal ~ Children, family, friends, community o Professional ~ Career, colleagues, associates and customers Essences of Relationships o Mental ~ Thought patterns o Emotional ~ Feeling states o Physical ~ Body well being o Spiritual ~ Religious and human spirituality Composition of Relationships o Information ~ Words, actions & behaviors o Energy ~ Emotions, feelings & vibrations o Decisions ~ Choices we make, consciously or unconsciously The center of the matrix is the relationship you have with yourself.
Everything begins with the "I".
From there, the next important relationship is your intimate and then personal and professional.
The amount of joy you experience in these realms of relationships will be determined by your habitual patterns regarding the essences of your relationships.
Is your habitual patterns of thoughts positive or negative? Are your usual emotions happy or sad? Is your physical being healthy or unhealthy? Do you live life as your spiritual authentic self or not? In any relationship there are three entities.
Each person and the space between.
The composition of that space will determine the success of the matrix and the relationship.
Think about it.
What happens in the space between two or more people? We exchange information (words, actions & behaviors) and we share energy (emotions, feelings & vibrations).
Based on how we generate, receive and share the information and energy will have a profound impact on the decisions we make.
How we "SHOW UP" is determined by the decisions we make.
These choices will affect the outer layer of the matrix, the pH Balance of Joy of our lives and relationships.
So, the questions is, are you experiencing a pH balance at an 80% level, 80% of the time in all realms and essences in your life? If not, then examine the composition of your information & energy and the decisions you are making? If your pH balance is below 80%, I challenge you to conduct a ten day experiment I call "flipping the pancake.
" Imagine standing at your stove cooking a pancake.
Now visualize yourself pulling the pan away from the stove and flip the pancake by tossing it in the air.
Well, that is what I want you to do with your information and energy over the next ten days.
Once you have identified any negative fear based thought and emotion that you know has been blocking you from joy, flip it to the opposite and notice if you make different decisions.
I know this may seem silly and unnatural at first but as the old saying goes...
fake it till you make it...
Have fun with it, SHOW UP and see if you can find your Mojo of Flow!