I thought I would post something that I find is a common problem that occurs with guys when wanting to meet women.
Here goes, Its regarding been to eager to move things forward with women.
Do your approach, begin an interaction, and then CHILL, LAY BACK, see what happens and give her the opportunity to put some energy into it too.
The problem with a lot of guys is they want it too badly.
They must make it work; they must get a good reaction from the woman and then get a result.
Most of the time it's like she is not even there.
I see it all the time;A man approaches a woman hoping to get a phone number/follow up etc.
He approaches with a mission, a desired outcome in mind and develops tunnel vision.
It's like she doesn't even exist, it's like he is more concerned about getting an actual result then getting the girl.
He goes in, talks her ear off, trying so hard to add value through conversation, asking her questions etc.
He does his best to connect with her and make an impression.
Then he goes in for the close, the phone number.
Something is missing though? Whats missing is the opportunity for her to make an impression on you, to actually show you some of her value and express herself.
The opportunity for her to work a little bit towards making the connection with you.
Read these points again.
They are KEY! Just because you approach a woman and make the first move in starting something...
This does not mean that the emphasis to make it work is all on you! Not only does it lower your value as a person when you are so keen to connect with somebody and make things work.
It's actually very off putting for the other person that they are not allowed an opportunity to work towards connecting with you.
Why do you think so many women are over guys and the way that they behave? Well, you make it too easy for women (even though you try play hard to get etc, They still know you want them because you are working so hard) there is no real challenge you see.
Most women know they can have any guy they want and most guys demonstrate this by the way they act.
They come across so needy and are too keen to make things happen and move things forward.
It's no big secret to do the following...
Next time you approach a woman and begin a conversation.
Create some rapport and then lean back, chill, be silent if you have to, and allow her to keep things going.
(don't be scared of awkward silence,) You will force her to talk and move past it.
Once again, it's important that she is given the opportunity to express herself and also add some value.
Don't be so keen to get a result and make things work.
Get that out of your mindset...
After you lay back and give her this opportunity.
You may find that she is not what you initially expected and that the two of you probably wouldn't work well together anyway.
This is time management guys and you will also feel better about yourself that you aren't just throwing away all of your power simply because you want to feel like you are getting results.
Chilling back and allowing her to work for you will also increase your chances of connecting with her when she is somebody you would like to get to know better...
When you come across the right type of girls.
You will simply do a much better job of creating the necessary feelings in her that need to occur in order for her to want to spend more time with you.
I hope this gives you some insight.
There are a lot questions about so called 'game' and energy guys are putting into their approaches and interactions and why they still don't get results.
Perhaps you need to look at this another way.
Maybe you are putting in to much energy and trying to hard to 'game' women.
Think about it...