Any woman can get a man. But the game a woman has to back
up her looks will help her keep a man. When a man is first getting
to know a woman, he usually puts her into one of two categories:
1. The potential girlfriend category.
2. The potential sex partner category.
Now the requirements for a woman to be placed in the
potential girlfriend category vary, depending on a man's particular
wants and needs. Before a man places a woman in this category,
he looks at her credentials. And the credentials could
include a hundred things. A man might take a woman's educational
background into consideration. He might consider her
culinary skills. He might take her sense of humor, her diet regimen,
her sex appeal, or a host of other things into consideration
before he puts a woman into the potential girlfriend category.
But it doesn't take much for a man to put a woman into the
potential sex partner category. The requirements are minimal.
As a matter of fact, a woman just needs to have two things in
order to get placed into the potential sex partner category:
1. A poon-tang
2. A pulse
In most cases, when a woman is first dating a man, if she
doesn't meet any of his qualifications to become a potential
girlfriend or mate, she automatically gets placed in the potential
sex partner category.
On the other hand, a woman in most cases actually has to like
something about a man before she will have sexual relations with
him, and she will require him to have certain credentials before
she gets physical with him. So a lot of women end up thinking
that just because a man wants to sleep with them, he must see
some special qualities in her as well. Which brings us to:
A man does not have to like you
to have sex with you.
A very common question that I often hear women ask is, "If a
man just wants sex, how come he doesn't just say that in the
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beginning?" The answer is, most men at least have some common
sense. Let's be realistic, ladies. Do you honestly think that
a man is going to step to you and say "Hey look, I don't really
want a relationship with you, I just want to hit that ass?" If he
did, you would dismiss him with the quickness. Men know
that, so guys at least have enough common sense to know
what to say, and what not to say, to get what they want and not
salt their own game.
So ladies, it's up to you to figure out what a man's true
agenda is, instead of complaining about what he should tell
you, and what he ought to be doing.
In order to do this, you have to break relationships down to
their basic components. There are basically three types of relationships:
1. emotional
2. sexual
3. financial
That's it. There are relationships for emotional gratification,
sexual gratification, and financial gratification.
If you are in a relationship with a person, it will be for at
least one of these three reasons. The problems come when the
two parties have different relationship agendas. A woman may
be dating a man because he is paying her bills, and he may be
dating her strictly for the sex. Or a woman might be dating a
guy whom she's emotionally attached to, while he is dating her
because she gives him a couple of dollars every now and then.
In the ideal relationship the two people dating are on the
same page emotionally, sexually, and financially. If there is a
deficiency in any one of these areas, and the deficiency has not
been rectified, the relationship will be temporary. So ladies,
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when you start dating a man, you must first be real (with yourself
especially) about what your true agenda is. If you are dating
a man strictly because of his financial contributions,
acknowledge that to yourself. Don't try to justify your agenda
by getting into a BS relationship with the person and deceiving
yourself into believing that you can learn to like other qualities
about the person.
You must also figure out what the other person's true
agenda is. Don't leave it up to them to tell you. In any game, you
have to at least play good defense until you are absolutely sure
that the other person is willing to be on the same team as you.
When you first meet a person, you can't tell if they are with
you or against you. And if someone has plans to get over on
you, or to get what they can from you without reciprocating,
they damn sure aren't going to tell you this up front.
Over 90 percent of all communication is nonverbal. So it's
up to you to look and listen very closely to a person's nonverbal
language (and not your own hopes and expectations) so
you can figure out where they are coming from.