When it comes to finding decent girls to date, picking them up, and finding a decent relationship; you have to realize up front that it's a numbers game. If you see that you will have to do a lot trying and that in that trying you are going to get shot down often, then most of that fear that you feel when approaching women will go away.





What you need to do is to develop your social skills and get your game up to speed so that you feel confident in what you are going to say and do to meet a nice person to date. Then it just becomes a matter of persistence and numbers.






Get out there and start talking and trying and expect that you are not going to do well all the time. Professional daters will tell you that they never score all the time with a woman, and even if you are just interested in meeting the one nice girl, you will have to take it for granted that she isn't going to show up at your front door or fall on your lap. You also can't expect to stumble upon the much talked about, "love at first sight". It's not that this is not possible, it's just that statistically speaking, this is a pretty rare thing.






So in the words of all professional soldiers out there, "prepare for the worst but expect the best". When you do that, you can settle into the idea that you will be at it for a while before you can find the right girl. This can be a very calming thing because it allows you to face that crazy dating scene without the usual expectations that can ruin your spirit in the long run.






In order to be successful and find the kind of woman or women that you are looking to hook up with, you will need to an unrelenting spirit. In order to stay the course and maintain your determination, tell yourself right now that it's going to take a number of tries to get what you want. Dating is a numbers game that you have to face in the most efficient and determined way possible. You will achieve your dating goals through numbers.