Keep My Marriage Alive: How to Save My Marriage Through Passion Building!
Keep Your Marriage Alive by Regaining Passion in a "Dry Marriage" Are you beginning to feel like your marriage with your other half is beginning to lose its edge, spark, or passion? Have you felt that you will not be able to keep your marriage alive for some time? Marriages have "ebbs and flows" in the passion of the relationship.
However, it is easy to get caught up in the daily, work-a-day grind of your family life together, or any number of other marriage problems that can create an extended low in the relationship.
You are not alone.
My wife and I recently went through a "rough patch" in our marriage together.
We both lost sight of our focus on building our relationship together due to too many obligations getting in the way of our marriage.
We drove ourselves to the edge of marital disaster and brought ourselves back from the brink, by holding tightly to each other.
We found motivation to work on our problems from two sources; our faith in God and our desire to have passion again for each other in our marriage.
We want to share how we got our marriage back on track together in hopes that the same methods can help you keep your marriage alive as well.
Remember Why You got Married Every time we lose focus on each other, my wife and I take a little bit of time away from it all to talk about the reason why we got married, the love that we shared together, and our plans for the future.
You can harness the power of reminiscence together in a similar way.
Do you remember who your spouse was when you married him or her? Chances are that deep down inside those qualities that you fell in love with in that person you married are still there.
True, people change over time due to the changing pressures and circumstances in life.
However, people in passionate and persevering relationships are able to help each other get through these life altering challenges and find a true point of connection again in a unified relationship.
You and your spouse can grab hold of that vision.
Both of you can share it as a focal point of loving each other for who each of you have become.
Now both of you can love each other as individuals and as a couple.
You can have a renewed sense of a "till death do us part" commitment, even if it kills any selfishness in each of you in the process.
Just imagine being able to daily remember the feelings of love and appreciation you had for your spouse on your wedding day.
Remember the vows of "oneness" that you took together and "run with it" to build a new and lasting relationship.
To love is a Decision; to be in Love is a Feeling You might be thinking that all of this sounds "well and good", but you are not sure if your relationship could survive the statement such as "I love you, but I'm not in love with you.
" Believe it or not, but it is very possible to love someone while falling in and out of love with them.
That means that your marriage can be saved through corrective action to bring feelings of love back.
You see, to love someone requires an over-arching decision to have a relationship based on commitment and loyalty.
Love feelings come and go with each circumstance because emotions and hormonal chemistry are not based on conscious decisions but rather are based on subjective and are capricious in nature.
If the problems in your marriage have grown to the point of dysfunction and resentment towards each other that caused your spouse to make the "I'm not in love with you" statement, then there are things you can do to turn that around.
Keep Your Marriage Alive by Bringing Back the "Good Feelings" The "I'm not in love with you" statement might seem to come from "out of the blue" but most likely the statement stems from some issues in the marriage that have been ignored for too long.
Emotional and relational needs that have consistently not been met in a marriage often will drive a spouse to seek it outside of the marriage.
The same problems will cause boredom and estrangement within a marriage.
In fact, the lack of this one thing can consistently cause these issues to recur in your marriage.
This one thing is the "in love" feeling of passion.
When you have it, sooner or later it is part of human nature to take it for granted and allow it to slip away.
When it slips away it is the thing that drives your behavior in positive or negative directions that erode the decision to love one another.
Wanting and pursuing passion together can motivate all of the rest of your marriage problem solving efforts to save your marriage.
Getting passion back can be a powerful motivator to even want to work on your marriage.
The trick to keeping your marriage alive is to make passionate relationship together a daily priority in your marriage, no matter what the cost.
How to Spark Passion for each other again The best way to spark passion for each other is to set aside "no stress" time with your partner.
The stress hormone cortisol hinders those "good time -- love feeling" hormones or endorphins.
Provided are some more tips to spark passion for each other together Make sure that you both have friendly feeling for each other before going to sleep for the night Also, make sure that there is agreement on any issue that may be wearing either of you down Take deep breaths for a few moments together Go out and get away from a stressful environment Experience something both of you enjoy together Talk together about meaningful things, of which both of you can relate Find something both of you are passionate about and do that thing together on a regular basis Make the time necessary to pursue sexual intimacy together Take big or little intimacy building steps; anything counts towards making sexual fulfillment a helpful reality Integrate your marriage problem resolution process with your passion building process Slowly include marriage resolution measures into your passion building time together.
If both of you are in a light, happy, and safe environment together, then both of you can slowly include communication that allows both of you to pinpoint which issues and problems are causing your marriage to fall apart romantically and then to brainstorm together on possible solutions to those problems.
I would suggest increasing good times together as a top marriage problem solution.
Conclusion Do not think too hard about passion building as it relates to your present feelings towards each other.
Simply make it a priority and look at it as the key to the success of your marriage saving efforts.
You may not feel like having a good time together, but think of it as a better option than bickering and fighting your way through your marriage saving mission.
My wife and I used this process to transform our marriage in crisis into a thriving and passionate union.
You too will most likely be able to complete your crisis marriage saving efforts better and with less set-backs if you make rebuilding passion in your marriage a priority.
However, it is easy to get caught up in the daily, work-a-day grind of your family life together, or any number of other marriage problems that can create an extended low in the relationship.
You are not alone.
My wife and I recently went through a "rough patch" in our marriage together.
We both lost sight of our focus on building our relationship together due to too many obligations getting in the way of our marriage.
We drove ourselves to the edge of marital disaster and brought ourselves back from the brink, by holding tightly to each other.
We found motivation to work on our problems from two sources; our faith in God and our desire to have passion again for each other in our marriage.
We want to share how we got our marriage back on track together in hopes that the same methods can help you keep your marriage alive as well.
Remember Why You got Married Every time we lose focus on each other, my wife and I take a little bit of time away from it all to talk about the reason why we got married, the love that we shared together, and our plans for the future.
You can harness the power of reminiscence together in a similar way.
Do you remember who your spouse was when you married him or her? Chances are that deep down inside those qualities that you fell in love with in that person you married are still there.
True, people change over time due to the changing pressures and circumstances in life.
However, people in passionate and persevering relationships are able to help each other get through these life altering challenges and find a true point of connection again in a unified relationship.
You and your spouse can grab hold of that vision.
Both of you can share it as a focal point of loving each other for who each of you have become.
Now both of you can love each other as individuals and as a couple.
You can have a renewed sense of a "till death do us part" commitment, even if it kills any selfishness in each of you in the process.
Just imagine being able to daily remember the feelings of love and appreciation you had for your spouse on your wedding day.
Remember the vows of "oneness" that you took together and "run with it" to build a new and lasting relationship.
To love is a Decision; to be in Love is a Feeling You might be thinking that all of this sounds "well and good", but you are not sure if your relationship could survive the statement such as "I love you, but I'm not in love with you.
" Believe it or not, but it is very possible to love someone while falling in and out of love with them.
That means that your marriage can be saved through corrective action to bring feelings of love back.
You see, to love someone requires an over-arching decision to have a relationship based on commitment and loyalty.
Love feelings come and go with each circumstance because emotions and hormonal chemistry are not based on conscious decisions but rather are based on subjective and are capricious in nature.
If the problems in your marriage have grown to the point of dysfunction and resentment towards each other that caused your spouse to make the "I'm not in love with you" statement, then there are things you can do to turn that around.
Keep Your Marriage Alive by Bringing Back the "Good Feelings" The "I'm not in love with you" statement might seem to come from "out of the blue" but most likely the statement stems from some issues in the marriage that have been ignored for too long.
Emotional and relational needs that have consistently not been met in a marriage often will drive a spouse to seek it outside of the marriage.
The same problems will cause boredom and estrangement within a marriage.
In fact, the lack of this one thing can consistently cause these issues to recur in your marriage.
This one thing is the "in love" feeling of passion.
When you have it, sooner or later it is part of human nature to take it for granted and allow it to slip away.
When it slips away it is the thing that drives your behavior in positive or negative directions that erode the decision to love one another.
Wanting and pursuing passion together can motivate all of the rest of your marriage problem solving efforts to save your marriage.
Getting passion back can be a powerful motivator to even want to work on your marriage.
The trick to keeping your marriage alive is to make passionate relationship together a daily priority in your marriage, no matter what the cost.
How to Spark Passion for each other again The best way to spark passion for each other is to set aside "no stress" time with your partner.
The stress hormone cortisol hinders those "good time -- love feeling" hormones or endorphins.
Provided are some more tips to spark passion for each other together Make sure that you both have friendly feeling for each other before going to sleep for the night Also, make sure that there is agreement on any issue that may be wearing either of you down Take deep breaths for a few moments together Go out and get away from a stressful environment Experience something both of you enjoy together Talk together about meaningful things, of which both of you can relate Find something both of you are passionate about and do that thing together on a regular basis Make the time necessary to pursue sexual intimacy together Take big or little intimacy building steps; anything counts towards making sexual fulfillment a helpful reality Integrate your marriage problem resolution process with your passion building process Slowly include marriage resolution measures into your passion building time together.
If both of you are in a light, happy, and safe environment together, then both of you can slowly include communication that allows both of you to pinpoint which issues and problems are causing your marriage to fall apart romantically and then to brainstorm together on possible solutions to those problems.
I would suggest increasing good times together as a top marriage problem solution.
Conclusion Do not think too hard about passion building as it relates to your present feelings towards each other.
Simply make it a priority and look at it as the key to the success of your marriage saving efforts.
You may not feel like having a good time together, but think of it as a better option than bickering and fighting your way through your marriage saving mission.
My wife and I used this process to transform our marriage in crisis into a thriving and passionate union.
You too will most likely be able to complete your crisis marriage saving efforts better and with less set-backs if you make rebuilding passion in your marriage a priority.
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